• Life on the other side of broken dreams: Embracing the unexpected and unplanned | lauraemichael.com

    Life on the other side of broken dreams: Embracing the unexpected and unplanned

    All my dreams didn’t come true in 2019.   In fact, they didn’t come true even in the last decade. I started 2010 face down on my bed, sobbing into a pillow at the stroke of midnight. I had been dumped just a few days earlier, a time when I once thought I would be getting engaged. Ten years later, I thought it would be a pretty rad story if I could post that I spent New Years Eve 2019 next to my husband, or at the very least, my boyfriend.   Well, if you saw my NYE post, you know that’s not what happened, but in a surprising twist,…

  • The truth about joy when life doesn't go as planned | lauraemichael.com

    The truth about joy when life doesn’t go as planned

    I felt it.   The twinge. That little spark that shivers through us when joy creeps in. I felt it. And in the very same moment, I pushed it away. You see, life wasn’t as I thought it should be, the way that I planned. What I saw around me was simply what I had, but never what I had wanted. So letting joy in? In THAT moment? No thank you.   That would have been denying my reality.   Giving up my rights to my disappointment; dishonoring my feelings. And no way was I going to let this joy, the joy in a circumstance that I never wanted, seep…

  • Letting go and moving forward when life doesn't go as planned | lauraemichael.com

    Letting go and moving forward when life doesn’t go as planned

    A few weeks ago, an improv group came to do a workshop for our team at work.   I promptly deleted the invitation when it landed in my inbox, as getting up in front of a group and making up a fictional story WITH ZERO PLAN is my worst nightmare. But the day of, I relented to the peer pressure of my co-workers (I hadn’t had my coffee yet. I was weak). Little did I know that I would leave that workshop with something I could not shake. The leader of the group was explaining that in improv, you can truly only react to what happens. You may have a…

  • A message to my younger self post break-up

    A message to my younger self post break-up

    I cried more tears in my 22nd year of life than all the years before combined.   My boyfriend of four years and I broke up a few days after my 22nd birthday, and just a few days before New Years. I rang in 2010 sobbing into a pillow on my parents bed, while Auld Lang Syne and cheers erupted from downstairs. Things went dark.   Deep depression and anxiety overwhelmed me for months to follow.   My roommates had to encourage me to get out of bed to go to class. I wondered what value my life had, graduating and going out into the world unattached and without the…

  • Why we don't need to dread extended singleness

    Why we don’t need to dread extended singleness

    “Please, God, don’t let me be single that long”   Do you ever meet people who got married far older than you are now, and have this thought? Most people would imagine that stories of women getting married older would give us single ladies hope. But often, instead, they send us into imagination-mode. Imagining what our life would look like if we, in fact, did not get married for the next x number of years.   I think about what my own twenty year old self would have thought about me being single for, at least, another eleven years.   The story in her mind would likely have gone something…

  • "I have the perfect guy for you, but he has a girlfriend" Encouragement for when it feels like all the best guys are taken | Singleness | Dating Advice | Being hopeful | Single Christian | Being Single | Single and Dating | justbeautifullyhonest.com

    “I have the perfect guy for you, but he has a girlfriend”: Encouragement for when it feels like all the best guys are taken

    You guys.   Sometimes I feel like my memoir is going to be called “I have the perfect guy for you, but he has a girlfriend”. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard this. First of all, this isn’t the point of the post, but I need to just say that if you have the perfect guy for me and he’s taken right now, don’t let me know he exists. Please and thank you. Second of all, how often have you heard this yourself? Or been out somewhere, seen a cute guy, maybe even talked to him, only to hear those dreaded words “Me and my girlfriend.” UGH.…

  • "Are you my husband?" Learning to live in expectant anticipation while enjoying the here and now | Singleness | Christian Singles | Dating Advice | Expectant Hope | Being Hopeful | Choose Joy | Finding Joy | justbeautifullyhonest.com

    “Are you my husband?”: Learning to live in expectant anticipation, while enjoying the here and now

    “Will there be any new guys at this party?” “Hopefully there’s a single groomsman in this wedding” “That guy isn’t wearing a ring. Maybe it’s him!” “What if I meet him on this trip?” “New guy at Bible study! Could it be?”   Sound familiar?   It certainly does to me. At times, these have been my literal thoughts when I’ve gone, well, anywhere. Like the baby bird in the children’s book “Are You My Mother?”, I started to look at every guy in any situation as if to ask “Are you my husband?” Is it him? Will I find him here? Is today the day? There was certainly nothing…

  • How falling in love with my own story changed my view of singleness | Encouragement for Singles | Fall in Love With Your Story | Own Your Story | Single Women | Singleness Quotes

    How falling in love with my own story changed my view of singleness

    Someone asked me recently how I’ve stayed so positive and upbeat during this year of weddings.   I initially didn’t have an answer, and also felt the immediate need to tell her that I drove home from the last wedding with the same song on repeat pretending a man was proposing to me as it played in the background (I’m only mildly ashamed to share that with you). So I certainly haven’t always felt “upbeat”. I’ve still deeply desired my own marriage, but it is true that those feelings of envy or despair I used to feel, honestly haven’t come. “So why not?” I thought, and finally the answer hit…

  • Worried you'll be the last one to get married? The truth about getting married later | Encouragement for Singles | Encouragement for Women | Singleness Quotes

    Worried you’ll be the last one to get married? The truth about getting married later

    “I’m going to be the last one to get married.”   Have you ever had this thought? It feels like you’ve somehow lost a race to all your friends, right? Like maybe one day you’ll cross the finish line, but bringing up the rear?   I know this feeling all too well.   In the midst of what I call “The Wedding Year”, I look around at my pockets of friends, even my family, and it’s not lost on me that most if not all the people I hold dear will be married before me. Maybe you have much the same story, and maybe it makes you feel much the…

  • Single During Wedding Season: A Reason for Hope | Encouragement for Singles | Christian Singles | Singleness Quotes | Single Women | Singleness and Hope

    Single during wedding season: A reason for hope

    Wedding season is upon us, friends!   And though a time of great joy and (hopefully) great cake, for us singles it can also feel like a series of events designed only to remind us of our single status. Filling out RSVP cards for one (can I get both meals, though?). Awkward bouquet tosses (I’ll be in the bathroom). Constant nudges from relatives saying “You’re next”, or worse, “Why are you still single?” (Take a hike, Aunt Debbie). Twiddling your thumbs during slow dances just waiting for Lil Jon to come back on (maybe that’s just me).   It can be tough, awkward, and though we may overflow with happiness…