“Will there be any new guys at this party?” “Hopefully there’s a single groomsman in this wedding” “That guy isn’t wearing a ring. Maybe it’s him!” “What if I meet him on this trip?” “New guy at Bible study! Could it be?”   Sound familiar?   It certainly does to me. At times, these have […]

Someone asked me recently how I’ve stayed so positive and upbeat during this year of weddings.   I initially didn’t have an answer, and also felt the immediate need to tell her that I drove home from the last wedding with the same song on repeat pretending a man was proposing to me as it […]

“I’m going to be the last one to get married.”   Have you ever had this thought? It feels like you’ve somehow lost a race to all your friends, right? Like maybe one day you’ll cross the finish line, but bringing up the rear? I know this feeling all too well. In the midst of […]

Wedding season is upon us, friends!   And though a time of great joy and (hopefully) great cake, for us singles it can also feel like a series of events designed only to remind us of our single status. Filling out RSVP cards for one (can I get both meals, though?). Awkward bouquet tosses (I’ll […]

“You’re going to die an old maid”   I’ll never forget those words. I had just finished expressing to a family member why I ended a relationship, and why, in all honesty, I felt that I’d rather be single than have stayed. What I wanted to say in that moment was that if dying an […]

“I am behind”   Oh, how often I’ve thought this. Behind in my job. On my dreams. In my relationship status. We begin to internalize this belief from a young age. Our childhood is spent following much the same path as those around us, so much so that when the paths begin to diverge, our […]

In church yesterday, the pastor said something that struck me.   Honestly, it wasn’t an earth shattering revelation, but rather one of those simple truths of the human experience. It went something like this: “As humans, we innately believe that if something feels good, it is good. If something feels bad, it is bad.” Oh […]

I was at a work conference recently and the speaker said something that I haven’t been able to shake.   He was talking about how hesitant people are to do anything (in fact, they may even think its impossible) until they see someone else do it first. Then suddenly, once one person has done it, […]

A few months ago I changed the tagline of my blog to “Changing the Way We Think About Singleness.”   Though I’ve been writing for several years now, I never quite knew what I wanted my message to be. Then I noticed a theme. My writing had become an extension of my own personal journey […]

What was your reaction the first time someone suggested being content in your singleness?   I’m pretty sure my internal response was something like “Um sure, thanks for your input. Now please take that thought with you and get on up outta here. Also don’t come back. Thanks. God bless.” I literally could not wrap […]