• "Are you my husband?" Learning to live in expectant anticipation while enjoying the here and now | Singleness | Christian Singles | Dating Advice | Expectant Hope | Being Hopeful | Choose Joy | Finding Joy | justbeautifullyhonest.com

    “Are you my husband?”: Learning to live in expectant anticipation, while enjoying the here and now

    “Will there be any new guys at this party?” “Hopefully there’s a single groomsman in this wedding” “That guy isn’t wearing a ring. Maybe it’s him!” “What if I meet him on this trip?” “New guy at Bible study! Could it be?”   Sound familiar?   It certainly does to me. At times, these have been my literal thoughts when I’ve gone, well, anywhere. Like the baby bird in the children’s book “Are You My Mother?”, I started to look at every guy in any situation as if to ask “Are you my husband?” Is it him? Will I find him here? Is today the day? There was certainly nothing…

  • How falling in love with my own story changed my view of singleness | Encouragement for Singles | Fall in Love With Your Story | Own Your Story | Single Women | Singleness Quotes

    How falling in love with my own story changed my view of singleness

    Someone asked me recently how I’ve stayed so positive and upbeat during this year of weddings.   I initially didn’t have an answer, and also felt the immediate need to tell her that I drove home from the last wedding with the same song on repeat pretending a man was proposing to me as it played in the background (I’m only mildly ashamed to share that with you). So I certainly haven’t always felt “upbeat”. I’ve still deeply desired my own marriage, but it is true that those feelings of envy or despair I used to feel, honestly haven’t come. “So why not?” I thought, and finally the answer hit…

  • Worried you'll be the last one to get married? The truth about getting married later | Encouragement for Singles | Encouragement for Women | Singleness Quotes

    Worried you’ll be the last one to get married? The truth about getting married later

    “I’m going to be the last one to get married.”   Have you ever had this thought? It feels like you’ve somehow lost a race to all your friends, right? Like maybe one day you’ll cross the finish line, but bringing up the rear?   I know this feeling all too well.   In the midst of what I call “The Wedding Year”, I look around at my pockets of friends, even my family, and it’s not lost on me that most if not all the people I hold dear will be married before me. Maybe you have much the same story, and maybe it makes you feel much the…

  • Single During Wedding Season: A Reason for Hope | Encouragement for Singles | Christian Singles | Singleness Quotes | Single Women | Singleness and Hope

    Single during wedding season: A reason for hope

    Wedding season is upon us, friends!   And though a time of great joy and (hopefully) great cake, for us singles it can also feel like a series of events designed only to remind us of our single status. Filling out RSVP cards for one (can I get both meals, though?). Awkward bouquet tosses (I’ll be in the bathroom). Constant nudges from relatives saying “You’re next”, or worse, “Why are you still single?” (Take a hike, Aunt Debbie). Twiddling your thumbs during slow dances just waiting for Lil Jon to come back on (maybe that’s just me).   It can be tough, awkward, and though we may overflow with happiness…

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    Busting myths: The truth about singleness

    “You’re going to die an old maid”   I’ll never forget those words. I had just finished expressing to a family member why I ended a relationship, and why, in all honesty, I felt that I’d rather be single than have stayed. What I wanted to say in that moment was that if dying an old maid means staying single and traveling the world, chasing my dreams, and living all the life God has for me then call me Ethel and sign me up because I am so. in.   But I knew that’s not what she meant.   Her words weren’t intended as ones of support of my singleness,…

  • Dear girl, you are not behind | Singleness | Singleness Quotes | Christian Singles | Life Advice | Young Adult Advice | justbeautifullyhonest.com

    Dear girl, you are not behind

    “I am behind”   Oh, how often I’ve thought this. Behind in my job. On my dreams. In my relationship status.   We begin to internalize this belief from a young age.   Our childhood is spent following much the same path as those around us, so much so that when the paths begin to diverge, our natural instinct is to feel that somehow, in some way, some or all of us are now behind. No longer fitting the mold. Lacking, and lagging. Recently, though, I was thinking about my friend Beverly. You may remember that a few months ago I had mentioned seeing her at church. A lovely, eighty-something…

  • Why my feelings don't tell the true story of my singleness | Singleness | Single Christian | Being Single | Advice for singleness | The real story | Feelings | justbeautifullyhonest.com

    Why my feelings alone don’t tell the true story of my singleness

    In church yesterday, the pastor said something that struck me.   Honestly, it wasn’t an earth shattering revelation, but rather one of those simple truths of the human experience. It went something like this:   “As humans, we innately believe that if something feels good, it is good. If something feels bad, it is bad.”   Oh how often has this been true in my life. How many times I’ve felt the pang of loneliness, the sting of comparison, the drop of my confidence as I felt left behind. How many times I’ve hated my singleness, and named it “bad”. On the other side, how many times I’ve felt the…

  • How our generation can change the way the world thinks about singleness | Singleness | Christian Singles | Going First | Be the First | Living Well | Dating Tips | Being Single | justbeautifullyhonest.com

    How our generation can change the way the world thinks about singleness

    I was at a work conference recently and the speaker said something that I haven’t been able to shake.   He was talking about how hesitant people are to do anything (in fact, they may even think its impossible) until they see someone else do it first. Then suddenly, once one person has done it, everyone else feels like they can do it too. That thought threw me back to the way I used to look at living life as a single girl.   Growing up, I had never seen a woman live and thrive in life without a man.   That wasn’t the story in my family, nor in…

  • Why our beliefs about our singleness matter | Singleness | Being Single | Words Matter | Words are Actions | Be Positive | Singleness Advice | justbeautifullyhonest.com

    Why our beliefs about our singleness matter

    A few months ago I changed the tagline of my blog to “Changing the Way We Think About Singleness.”   Though I’ve been writing for several years now, I never quite knew what I wanted my message to be. Then I noticed a theme. My writing had become an extension of my own personal journey with singleness, and there was one aspect that evolved most throughout the story:   The way that I thought about singleness.   You see, early on in my journey with singleness, I drew conclusions based on what I thought I saw around me. Those conclusions became repetitive thoughts, that eventually became beliefs:   Everyone I…

  • What it looks like to be content single, and still looking (and why we can do both) | Content Single | Contentment | Singleness | Being Single | Single Christian | Dating Tips | justbeautifullyhonest.com

    What it looks like to be content single and still looking (and why we can do both)

    What was your reaction the first time someone suggested being content in your singleness?   I’m pretty sure my internal response was something like “Um sure, thanks for your input. Now please take that thought with you and get on up outta here. Also don’t come back. Thanks. God bless.” I literally could not wrap my mind around it. To me, saying yes to contentment meant saying no to ever being married. It felt like giving up. If I was content, why would I keep looking? How would it ever happen? I honestly used to have those thoughts.   But then last week, as I sat alone on a beach…