• The truth about someone else getting what you want | lauraemichael.com

    The truth about someone else getting what you want

    “It’s never going to happen for me.”   How many times have you had this thought when you found out that someone else was getting married, or even just got a boyfriend? This thought that because someone else has what you hope for, it can’t or for some reason won’t happen for you now? Honestly, I think my own personal count is probably nearing the thousands. But there’s something I’ve come to know that I need to tell you, in case you’ve found yourself in that place today, and I desperately hope that you’ll hear me:   Just because something happens for someone else before it happens for you, doesn’t…

  • Permission to enjoy life today: How joy in today and hope for tomorrow can coexist | lauraemichael.com

    Permission to enjoy life now: How joy in today and hope for tomorrow can coexist

    I used to believe I had to hate my singleness if I ever wanted to get married.   It made sense, somehow, that if I was content being single, there would be no reason for me to have a husband, or need one. In fact, more than anything, I worried that being content meant that I wouldn’t even want one. So I fought. I fought every ounce of joy, every sneaking feeling of contentment like my life depended on it. Like my marriage depended on it.   Maybe you can relate.   Maybe you’re living life under that same belief right now. The one that says you have to hate…

  • Why the next generation needs to see women thriving in singleness | lauraemichael.com

    Why the next generation needs to see women thriving in singleness

    I’m going to tell you a (not so) secret.   I never planned or wanted to write about singleness. I especially never wanted to experience singleness for so long that I have THIS MUCH to say about it. But do you know why I’m grateful for it? Why I love it? Because blogs, books, resources, anything that made singleness seem ok, even pretty cool, didn’t exist when I was growing up, and I realize now how much I needed them.   I didn’t grow up seeing women thrive as adults in singleness.   Where I’m from, and especially in the Christian culture I grew up in, everyone was married in…

  • Life doesn't start on your wedding day: Encouragement to live life today | lauraemichael.com

    Life doesn’t start on your wedding day: Encouragement to live life today

    “I’ll do that when I’m married.”   That was my mantra for years. “That will be better, more worth it with a husband, so I’ll just wait for him.” I remember specifically feeling that way when I decided I wanted to run a marathon. It wasn’t so much that I needed a guy to run the marathon with me, as much as I wanted that Hollywood movie moment at the end. The one where I finish the race, run into his arms, and he swings me around and tells me how proud he is.   What was the point in doing it without a guy waiting for me at the…

  • A husband is not a solution: Encouragement for pursing your goals when single | lauraemichael.com

    A husband is not a solution: Encouragement for pursuing your goals when single

    “If I just had a husband, this would be so much easier.”   That’s what I used to think when it came to any of my life goals that required something from me that didn’t come naturally, or that just didn’t seem readily available. Skills I need to own a business, companions to travel with, money to fund an idea.   My default in those moments was to ruminate on the belief that if I just had a husband, he could surely help me with some of this.   Figure it out, have the solution, or even, be the solution. And honestly, to some extent, that thought wasn’t unfounded. There…

  • If you knew you would get married tomorrow, what would you savor today? | lauraemichael.com

    If you knew you would get married tomorrow, what would you savor today?

    If you knew you would get married tomorrow, what would you savor today?   It’s easy to dream about what we look forward to in marriage. (trust me, I have a long list.) Those things readily come to mind the moment we find ourselves longing for the day that hope becomes a reality. But what we often neglect in those moments is what we might miss about our singleness.   Years ago, I would have rolled my eyes at that statement (maybe you just did).   Come on Laura, you won’t miss ANYTHING about this, I would have thought. Have you forgotten about the dating apps, the wasted bags of…

  • Life on the other side of broken dreams: Embracing the unexpected and unplanned | lauraemichael.com

    Life on the other side of broken dreams: Embracing the unexpected and unplanned

    All my dreams didn’t come true in 2019.   In fact, they didn’t come true even in the last decade. I started 2010 face down on my bed, sobbing into a pillow at the stroke of midnight. I had been dumped just a few days earlier, a time when I once thought I would be getting engaged. Ten years later, I thought it would be a pretty rad story if I could post that I spent New Years Eve 2019 next to my husband, or at the very least, my boyfriend.   Well, if you saw my NYE post, you know that’s not what happened, but in a surprising twist,…

  • A message to my younger self post break-up

    A message to my younger self post break-up

    I cried more tears in my 22nd year of life than all the years before combined.   My boyfriend of four years and I broke up a few days after my 22nd birthday, and just a few days before New Years. I rang in 2010 sobbing into a pillow on my parents bed, while Auld Lang Syne and cheers erupted from downstairs. Things went dark.   Deep depression and anxiety overwhelmed me for months to follow.   My roommates had to encourage me to get out of bed to go to class. I wondered what value my life had, graduating and going out into the world unattached and without the…

  • Why we don't need to dread extended singleness

    Why we don’t need to dread extended singleness

    “Please, God, don’t let me be single that long”   Do you ever meet people who got married far older than you are now, and have this thought? Most people would imagine that stories of women getting married older would give us single ladies hope. But often, instead, they send us into imagination-mode. Imagining what our life would look like if we, in fact, did not get married for the next x number of years.   I think about what my own twenty year old self would have thought about me being single for, at least, another eleven years.   The story in her mind would likely have gone something…

  • "I have the perfect guy for you, but he has a girlfriend" Encouragement for when it feels like all the best guys are taken | Singleness | Dating Advice | Being hopeful | Single Christian | Being Single | Single and Dating | justbeautifullyhonest.com

    “I have the perfect guy for you, but he has a girlfriend”: Encouragement for when it feels like all the best guys are taken

    You guys.   Sometimes I feel like my memoir is going to be called “I have the perfect guy for you, but he has a girlfriend”. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard this. First of all, this isn’t the point of the post, but I need to just say that if you have the perfect guy for me and he’s taken right now, don’t let me know he exists. Please and thank you. Second of all, how often have you heard this yourself? Or been out somewhere, seen a cute guy, maybe even talked to him, only to hear those dreaded words “Me and my girlfriend.” UGH.…